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189: Uncovering Your Protective Self, Staying in Integrity, and Why Labels Let You Off the Hook
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189: Uncovering Your Protective Self, Staying in Integrity, and Why Labels Let You Off the Hook

This week I’m sharing something that came up in a session: a client who kept casting her coworkers as “the parents” and herself as “the kid.”

Underneath it was a protective mechanism: if she never took full ownership, she never had to risk being “not good enough.”

We traced it back together, and it led somewhere deeper: a lack of self-trust. Not keeping promises to herself. Saying she’d do something and quietly letting it slide.

I share my own version of this too, a pattern I didn’t see for years.

We all have a protective self. It’s not the enemy; it’s just outdated. This episode is about learning to recognize it, thank it, and let your wiser self take the wheel again.

If this episode stirs something up, I’d love to talk. Book a call with me. https://calendar.app.google/18FLkL859zULA2848


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