Growth Over Easy
Growth Over Easy: Relationship Skills for Long-Term Love
186: The Performance: Why Being Easy Is Slowly Starving Your Relationship (Part 4 of 5): The Nervous System Pattern Quietly Killing Connection
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186: The Performance: Why Being Easy Is Slowly Starving Your Relationship (Part 4 of 5): The Nervous System Pattern Quietly Killing Connection

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Being easy to be with feels like a gift you’re giving your relationship. But if you’re performing ease you don’t actually feel, it’s slowly starving you both.

You say you’re fine. Your partner believes you. And somewhere underneath that, a quiet resentment starts to build, not toward anything specific, just toward never really being known.

The performance keeps the surface smooth. But your needs don’t disappear because you’ve stopped voicing them. They go underground, and they start to cost you the intimacy you’re working so hard to protect.

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In this episode:

  • Understand why the fawn response taught you to hide your needs and why it made complete sense when you learned it

  • Tell the difference between being genuinely easygoing and performing ease from a place of fear

  • Practice one small daily habit that starts rebuilding the muscle of asking for what you need

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