188: Stop Speaking Your Truth: Why It Is Damaging Your Relationship (And What to Do Instead)

“Speak your truth” sounds like the most honest thing you can do. But it’s not.

Your truth is your perspective. It is what is real within your current awareness. And when you hold it like a fact, like the final word on what happened or who your partner is, there is nowhere left for the conversation to go.

I heard a quote about ten years ago that I have never forgotten. Honesty changes with one’s awareness. The truth is always the same. That is the distinction.

In this episode:

• Understand why speaking your truth can actually shut a conversation down before it has a chance to go anywhere

• Recognize the three ways it quietly breaks relational communication without you realizing it

• Learn Terry Real’s feedback wheel, a four-step tool for sharing what you feel and what you need without putting your partner on the defense

Your partner cannot meet you in a conversation you have already closed.

If this one landed and you want support bringing this into your relationship, I work with couples on exactly this.

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