Are You Picking It Up or Making It Up? How Assumptions Are Silently Destroying Your Relationship
You think you know what your partner meant by that tone. You think you know why they’re quiet. But what if you’re not picking it up, you’re making it up? In this episode, Lilly shares a concept that stops assumption-based communication in its tracks.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The difference between picking something up and making something up
Why assumptions kill communication in relationships
How thinking you know what your partner thinks makes you stop asking questions
Why your brain creates stories that may have no basis in reality
The one antidote to assumption-based thinking in relationships
How to trust your instincts AND still get clarity from your partner
Why curiosity is the most underrated communication skill in a relationship
The Takeaway Practice: Next time you catch yourself inferring meaning from your partner’s tone, words, or behavior, pause and ask:
“Am I picking this up or am I making it up?”
Then get curious. Ask the question. Operate from clarity, not assumption.
Work with Lilly: Ready to break the assumption cycle in your relationship? Book a free consult or email lilly@growthovereasy.com
