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176: Why Everything Feels So Urgent in Your Life and Relationship (What Your Nervous System Is Really Doing)
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176: Why Everything Feels So Urgent in Your Life and Relationship (What Your Nervous System Is Really Doing)

In this episode, Lilly breaks down what urgency really is, what’s happening in the nervous system when everything feels like it has to be dealt with right now, and what to do instead. She explains the difference between passion and urgency, why urgency lives in activation, and gives you simple body-based tools to help you slow down and come back into your window of tolerance.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • What urgency actually is in the nervous system

  • Why urgency often shows up as fight or flight activation

  • How unbridled self-expression is often driven by urgency

  • The difference between passion and urgency

  • Why urgency creates pressure to get everything out at once

  • Why acting fast can create bigger ruptures in your relationship

  • What it means to work with urgency instead of acting from it

  • A tool for urgency that feels like flight

  • A tool for urgency that feels like fight

  • Why expanding your nervous system capacity is the long-term solution


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