167: What's In and Out for Relationships in 2026

New year, new relationship standards. In this episode, Lilly breaks down the five things that need to go and the five things that need to stay in your relationship for 2026.

We’re ditching the defensive apologies, the unrealistic expectations, and the passive-aggressive pet names. And we’re leaning into repair as a one-way street, friction as your growth edge, and building a flexible nervous system that can handle real connection.

This isn’t about perfection. It’s about doing the real work in 2026.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why labeling your partner as “avoidant” or “narcissist” is sabotaging your relationship

• The truth about expecting your partner to meet all your needs (spoiler: they can’t)

• Why band-aid fixes don’t work—and what root cause work actually looks like

• How to apologize without making excuses or rationalizing your behavior

• What “repair as a one-way street” means and why it changes everything

• How to reframe relationship friction as your growth edge

• The difference between nervous system regulation and a flexible nervous system

• Why men and women need to be on the same team in 2026

Key Takeaways:

• An apology is simple: “I’m sorry for this.” No excuses, no rationalization.

• Repair is a one-way street—deal with one problem at a time.

• Your partner is a mirror showing you where you need to grow.

• Flexibility in your nervous system is more important than always being “zen.”

• Stop pitting men and women against each other—we all rise together.

Connect with Lilly:

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