In this episode, Lilly explores how attachment styles—shape our relationships. Instead of labeling yourself as one specific style, she encourages seeing attachment as a continuum. The episode emphasizes that while attachment styles are formed in childhood, they can be changed through awareness and inner child work.
Key Points:
Attachment Styles as a Continuum: Avoidant, anxious, and secure are points on a spectrum, not fixed labels.
Labels as Limiting: Labels can be used to justify unhealthy behaviors; it's better to view attachment styles with curiosity and growth in mind.
Childhood Influence: Your attachment style is shaped by early experiences with caregivers but can be changed through self-awareness.
Secure Attachment: Formed through consistent, responsive caregiving. It leads to trusting relationships, self-esteem, and emotional sharing.
Anxious Attachment: Results from inconsistent caregiving, leading to fear of abandonment and distress in relationships.
Avoidant Attachment: Develops when needs are neglected, causing emotional distance and intimacy issues.
Self-Awareness for Change: Understanding why you've developed certain attachment tendencies helps heal and change those patterns.
Actionable Insight: Inner child work is the key to healing attachment wounds and moving toward secure attachment.
Go Deeper:
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