About Growth Over Easy

Why I Write

I write because I’ve come to believe that the quality of our lives is shaped by the questions we’re willing to ask.

• Why do we keep repeating the same patterns?

• Why do we struggle to say what we really mean to the people we love?

• Why do we abandon ourselves when life gets hard?

• And what does it actually take to change?

Growth Over Easy is where I explore those questions.

Each week, I share an essay and a podcast about relationships, emotional health, self-awareness, and the lifelong work of becoming more fully ourselves. Some pieces are practical. Others are deeply personal. All of them are invitations to slow down, think differently, and grow with a little more intention.

I don’t believe meaningful change happens because someone gives us the perfect advice.

I believe it happens when we understand ourselves well enough to choose a different way forward.

If you’re someone who wants healthier relationships, a more flexible nervous system, and a life that feels more aligned with who you truly are, I hope you’ll find something here that stays with you long after you’ve finished reading.

About Me

I’m Lilly Rachels.

I’m a writer, relationship mentor, and co-founder of Relational Somatics. I hold a Master’s degree in Social Work, and my work is centered on helping individuals and couples build the nervous system flexibility needed for healthy long-term love.

For years, I’ve had the honor of sitting with people in some of the most vulnerable moments of their lives. Again and again, I’ve found that beneath our different stories are many of the same questions: How do I change? How do I love well? How do I stop repeating the patterns?

Those conversations have shaped me as much as they’ve shaped my work.

Growth Over Easy is where psychology meets everyday life. Where research meets real stories. And where I hope you’ll find both practical tools and thoughtful reflections that help you build a more connected life.

I’m grateful you’re here.