We’re pack animals. We’re wired for connection.
But most people don’t know how to stay in it when it gets hard.
When conflict hits, when emotions rise, when something real needs to be said,
we avoid, we manage, we shut down, or we try to control the outcome.
You can’t think your way out of that.
And you can’t build a real relationship while avoiding what’s true.
You have to learn how to stay.
Stay in the conversation.
Stay with yourself.
Stay when it would be easier to check out.
That’s what Growth Over Easy is about.
Choosing honesty, responsibility, and effort over comfort, avoidance, and control in your relationships.
Saying the real thing, not the right thing.
Taking responsibility for your side.
Doing the work most people avoid.
Because relationships don’t fail from lack of potential
they fail when people stop showing up for them.
What You’ll Get Here
Weekly podcast episodes — Real talk on relationships, nervous system regulation, emotional responsibility, and the work of long-term love.
Writings — Short, grounded reflections on relationships, emotional honesty, regulation, and what it actually takes to build love that lasts.
Free resources — Practical guides, frameworks, and tools referenced in the podcast, all linked in the show notes.
About Me
I’m Lilly Rachels, a Men’s Relationship Coach teaching nervous system flexibility, vagal authority, and what it means to live relationally.
I work with leaders who are crushing it at work but struggling at home. The ones who can stay calm during a crisis but snap when their kid interrupts them. The ones whose mind goes blank when their partner is upset. The ones who can’t turn off “work mode” even after they’re home.
I help them build nervous system flexibility—the capacity to stay present, regulate under pressure, and lead their relationships the way they lead their teams.
I have a Master’s degree in Social Work from the University of Tennessee. I’m trained in Relational Life Therapy and somatic trauma renegotiation. I’m a former therapist and personal trainer. I co-founded Relational Somatics. I host the Growth Over Easy podcast. I sit on the advisory board for Survivors for Change.
I created the Relational Blueprint Method™—a somatic, body-based approach to rewiring relational patterns and building capacity for connection.
This isn’t therapy. It’s nervous system training. And it’s how you move from chronic activation to calm, connected, and relationally present.
I’m based in Nashville, Tennessee, with my partner and our three pups.
Email: lilly@growthovereasy.com to learn more.
What Clients Say
“Lilly, your podcast is so genuine! You do such a great job. Thank you for sharing, it really helps me.”
“There isn’t anyone like Lilly. The way she teaches is just different. Inspiring and caring.”
“I got more out of a 40 minute call with you than 5 months with my therapist.”
“I felt understood at our very first conversation with Lilly. I knew she could help me with my struggles. She didn’t prove me wrong and delivered an excellent presentation and support during our workshop together. On 1 on 1 sessions I have learned how to be more compassionate towards myself which was the beginning of an abundance in life.”
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