We’re pack animals. We’re wired for connection.

But most of us are walking around with a nervous system stuck in chronic activation—unable to stay present when it matters most.

You can’t think your way out of that. You can’t willpower your way through it. You have to train your nervous system to be flexible enough to stay in the room when every instinct is telling you to explode or shut down.

That’s what I teach here: How to live relationally through nervous system flexibility.

How to stay present during conflict. How to lead your relationships without losing yourself. How to build the capacity to connect, even when you’re under pressure.

This work is for leaders who are tired of being calm at work and reactive at home. Men who want to stop the explode-shutdown cycle. People who know they need more than another communication framework—they need to rewire the pattern at the root.

What You’ll Get Here

Weekly podcast episodes — Real talk on living relationally, nervous system regulation, and how to stay present in your relationships when pressure hits. This is where we go deep on building capacity, rewiring patterns, and leading with presence—not just at work, but at home.

Weekly 3T newsletter — 1 truth, 1 thought, 1 tactic. Short, useful, no fluff. Tools you can actually use to stay grounded and connected.

Free resources — Guides, frameworks, and tools referenced in the podcast. All linked in the show notes.

What Clients Say

“Lilly, your podcast is so genuine! You do such a great job. Thank you for sharing, it really helps me.”

“There isn’t anyone like Lilly. The way she teaches is just different. Inspiring and caring.”

“I got more out of a 40 minute call with you than 5 months with my therapist.”

“I felt understood at our very first conversation with Lilly. I knew she could help me with my struggles. She didn’t prove me wrong and delivered an excellent presentation and support during our workshop together. On 1 on 1 sessions I have learned how to be more compassionate towards myself which was the beginning of an abundance in life.”

About Me

I’m Lilly Rachels. I’m a Relational Leadership Consultant, teaching nervous system flexibility and living relationally.

I work with leaders who are crushing it at work but struggling at home. The ones who can stay calm during a crisis but snap when their kid interrupts them. The ones whose mind goes blank when their partner is upset. The ones who can’t turn off “work mode” even after they’re home.

I help them build nervous system flexibility—the capacity to stay present, regulate under pressure, and lead their relationships the way they lead their teams.

I have a Master’s degree in Social Work from the University of Tennessee. I’m trained in Relational Life Therapy and somatic trauma renegotiation. I’m a former therapist and personal trainer. I co-founded Relational Somatics. I host the Growth Over Easy podcast. I sit on the advisory board for Survivors for Change.

I created the Relational Blueprint Method™—a somatic, body-based approach to rewiring relational patterns and building capacity for connection.

This isn’t therapy. It’s nervous system training. And it’s how you move from chronic activation to calm, connected, and relationally present.

I’m based in Nashville, Tennessee. I travel with my partner and our three pups.

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